Spring Fashion Denim Trends, for women over 40

I’ve been looking forward to doing a few posts on new spring fashion! The fashion gods have smiled upon us this spring by giving us some super cute styles that #1. Aren’t about emphasizing our midriffs and #2. Are easily adaptable to any age or style. I wanted to point out a few of my favorite spring fashion trends in the next few posts and how I intend to incorporate them into my spring wardrobe.

How to wear spring denim trends for women over 40
Spring Denim Trends! Photo by Vogue Blogs
Spring Fashion: Raw, Frayed and Fringe Denim

If it’s denim, and it has a hem- fray that thing!

I’m a jeans girl through and through and one of my all time favorite styles to wear is to mix and match the very casual with the very dressy. The frayed hem on a pair of jeans lends itself so well to this style as well as to loads of others. Jessica Booth did a fabulous post on the huge variety of ways to incorporate this style, check it out in its entirety HERE . I love this ultra casual, weekend look.

spring fashion trend ultra casual frayed denim
Photo from Gurl.com  and ASOS

Here are my 2 favorite looks with this trend.

First, I love pairing the frayed, straight leg denim with an awesome statement shoe. In Vogue blogs, The Devil Wears Zara they’ve dished all about the fray and the fringe. The styling in this picture just puts me over the moon. I LOVE the raw hem next to the luxe, velvety, rose colored block heel.frayed jeans spring fashion

Speaking of which- how about the return of the block heel this spring? This is great news for those of us who may shy away from teetering up on stilettos these days. A good sturdy heel a gal can really stand on… I’m all about it. Wether high or low, sandal or closed toe, the block heel is all over this spring.

My other favorite fray is the cropped, wide leg look. The very fashion savvy blogger Krystal at This Time Tomorrow has an awesome take on this trend. She’s paired it with an off the shoulder top and another statement shoe. I really love the length of these. I am seeing a lot of higher crops in the store and they hearken back to the culotte days of my private school youth. No amount of therapy will get me back into a pair of those, so the length below is absolutely perfect for me!

Spring Fashion trend alert! Cropped wide legged jeans.
Photo by Krystal at This Time Tomorrow

And guess what? This trend doesn’t even require buying a new pair of jeans! If you have a pair that you love, but that could use a little updating, check out The Bellezza Corner for a tutorial on how to cut and fray them yourself!

If I have to make a trip to NYC this this spring or summer, I promise you I will be sporting this look shown on Denim trends , (with a block heel, of course). That fringe! I love it! And look at that hi-lo cut!

Spring Fashion Frayed Denim
Photo by Denim Trends

Ready to upgrade your denim game? I’ve picked out a few of my favorites! Have you ever tried Joes jeans? Ah-MA-ZING. They are made of magic and they hold you in and smooth you out in all the right places. In my opinion, they literally make you look better when you slide them on, AND they are super comfortable!  If you are going to splurge on a pair, this is the brand I recommend. And I’ll tell you what-

Joe’s styling is always on point and they last forever. Side note: Joe’s jeans are also great for women who have trouble getting their jeans to fit through the waist. If your jeans typically gape at the waist, when they fit through the hip- this is the brand for you. 🙂

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A brand with a much kinder price point that is also great quality is Kut From the Cloth. I have several pair of these and I really love them! Great quality and great price. I like these because the distressing isn’t too over the top.

What do you think of the return of the high-rise waist jeans?  After years of muffin tops everywhere, I’m pretty jazzed about it. But a word of caution: if your jeans aren’t structured properly with some “lift” for your backside, they can leave you with the dreaded “mom butt”. Thankfully, if you add a top with the on trend, hi-lo hem, you can have the best of all worlds!!!

Spring Denim Recap

Whats in right now? Frayed, raw cut, fringe, wide leg, straight leg, cropped,flared, hi-lo hem, high waist, no waist, boy friend cut, two-toned, and  vintage.

Whats on it’s way out? super-skinnies, super stretch, jeggings, and low rise.

I can definitely live with that!

As always, one of the advantages to being over 40, is that we can wear whatever the heck we want and step out confidently- because we’re finally old enough not to care what other people think!

Do you live in your jeans? What’s your favorite brand ? Leave a comment below, and if you like this post, please share it. 🙂

#wearwhatyoulove

Cheers!

Melissa

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Your Over 40 Expert; The most truth you will ever read about being over 40.

In spite of the upcoming move, I have loads of things in the works to share with you! I have been scouring the planet, via the www, to find new and exciting things  that will REALLY make a difference for you over 40. I greet each new product, procedure and idea with an unmatched bitterness and skepticism, so a “find” is truly that…..a small miracle.the brutally honest (and hysterical) truth about being Over 40...and what you can do about it.

But lets get honest here. I feel like many of our physical struggles Over 40 are similar, so I try to focus on those. Any of these sound familiar?

  • Whats the BEST way to lose weight Over 40 and keep it off? (no BS tofu diet, either…..I won’t have it.)
  • What the hell is wrong with my face and why doesn’t my old makeup and skincare regimen work anymore?
  • Great. I’m blind now. What are my options in eye wear?
  • Tightening……I need tightening everywhere.
  • How can I dress in a somewhat current fashion, but hide……all of this.
  • My lashes are thinner, my brows are thinner, but OMG I feel like I need a full on face shave!
  • Arm flab and back fat…..the struggle is real.
  • Have I been frowning for the past 40 years straight? Whats up with that massive crevice between my eyes and what can I do about it?
  • How does one properly sport ones new turkey neck?
  • Jowls. I am getting honest to God jowls.
  • My ponytail is now as thick as it was when I was 3 years old. Is this normal?
  • My back hurts and I’ve begun answering to the name “Brittle Hips”.
  • What fresh new hell is this? My CLEAVAGE has wrinkles?
  • OMG- I pee when I run. (thanks kids)
  • Ummmm……….gray hair?
  • What the hell is contouring?.. And do I want it?
  • I don’t have the budget of a Kardashian, so what options are available for ME?
  • When did my breasts grow to the size of cantaloupes?……..And why are they trying to hurl themselves straight to the floor?
  • Bangs or Botox….that is the question. Also…. is there a Groupon for that?

Sistas, I feel your pain. Only a fellow comrade swimming in the Over 40 waters could have written the above, brutally honest (and hopefully humorous) list. I am making it my life’s mission to deal with these issues. I am not interested in being 20 something again…..I AM interested in meeting aging head on and dealing with it on my own terms. I want what WORKS.

I want to put out all the available anti aging options and in all the available budget categories.   I will be your curator. I will leave no stone unturned and no budgetary restrictions unaccounted for. We will crack the code on French women and their skin! Damn them and all their late night wine drinking, smoking and drop dead gorgeous skin.<shaking clenched fist to the sky> We will find the procedures and products worth your time and hard earned dollars.The site that's dishing all the dirt on Life Over 40!

I am up to the task.

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~Melissa

How to get the most amazingly soft lips!

Treat Beauty Lip Balms, I am completely obsessed. You can have soft lips again with the most deliciously minimal effort!soft lips over 40

I’ve told you before how dry the air is here in Colorado. This is wonderful for personal comfort. Who doesn’t love warm, dry sunshine all the time? But it’s not so wonderful for my skin…specifically my lips. I kid you not, we were ordering chap stick by the case out here. It was the only thing that kept my lips from looking like I had just hiked across a vast desert without a drop of water.

I have tried all of the popular lip products. The expensive stuff, as well as all natural ingredients all the way to the supposedly tried and true grocery store brands (Carmex anyone? yes- I was that desperate). They ALL failed in one way or another. And Chap stick only worked as a protectant if you kept reapplying continually (thus the bulk orders). The struggle was real friends.

From the moment I frantically tore open the package, I was intrigued. My first purchase was the jumbo sized sugar cookie scented balm. Oh my sweet goodness. Why is Smell-a-Vision not a thing yet?? Way to go science. Because these lip balms smell absolutely delicious. After sniffing my new jumbo stick about 10 times and saying “yum” repeatedly, I tried the balm on my dry, crusty lips.

Hooked. Ladies and gentleman, we’ve got ourselves a miracle cream here.

This is the stuff. It actually moisturizes your lips. It isn’t just protecting, it softens them instantly and continues to improve their appearance and texture the more you use it.

But wait- theres more.

They also make a lip scrub that I tried as well. Have you ever used a lip scrub? It typically involves scooping your fingers down inside a little jar of coarse goo, rubbing it on your lips and then getting it all back off again- hopefully with the dry skin too. Well hold the phone because Treat makes a lip scrub……in a STICK. Do you know whats in it? Umm….sugar. I got the marshmallow cream flavor  scent and it’s amazing. It is so convenient and delicious, I find myself using it daily.

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I keep it at my vanity and use it in the mornings. Using the scrub plus the lip balm has worked so well and made my lips incredibly soft again! Soft lips! Like the lips of my youth! (Only with some added lines damnit. But thats a post for another day.)

The ingredients are all organic: coconut oil, Shea butter, beeswax, etc. And the product is made in the USA and is cruelty free.  Their byline says “Every Treat is made with ingredients so pure, you can eat them.” I may or may not have done this. Also, because of the moisturizing organic ingredients, if one were to, hypothetically speaking, go to bed without using your moisturizers and serums, you can just use this around your eyes as a moisturizer. You know……I mean- if you know anyone that lazy. Just keepin’ it real sistas.soft lips over 40

They sell for less than $14 at Treat Beauty and you can also get them through Amazon. The flavors are amazing: marshmallow cream, bubble gum, soft candy, peaches and cream, coconut cream, hot cocoa and more. Whats not to absolutely love?


The organic ingredients, cute packaging and good price point also make these great gifts. I sent some to my cutie pie- 8 year old niece Maisie, and she loves it.Treat Beauty organic lip balm

As for me, I am now working on hoarding all the flavors. I have one on my night stand, my vanity, in my car, in my purse and by the kitchen sink. If you want soft lips, this is your answer. And can we all just say a little prayer of thanks that in this day and age of high dollar procedures, this one is wonderfully inexpensive!

So, Treat yo’self! And enjoy your soft lips again.

Cheers!

Melissa

Packing Like We’re Moving

Well- we are moving. Like- NOW. It was all unexpected. Not the move, but the timing. So, I have been thrown into the trenches of sorting, packing, donating and selling. Quickly.

packing and movingBut wait- I haven’t told you the best part! We don’t know where we’re going. Oh the exhilarating feeling of living life on the edge- the freedom of just letting the wind carry you, without a care in the world!  The previous sentence was deep sarcasm and I don’t recommend that you try this at home with normal, sane people. To be honest- this is all just the cat’s ass. (Thank you Linda at Tales from The Cabbage Patch for that term. I shall cherish it and try to use it wisely. It seems to fit here.)

Let’s see, how can I catch you up? I’ll give you a little mini house tour and I’ll tell you what I know.

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The current packing station situation. I try not to look at it. (Also- I will NOT miss the kitchen(to the left) in this house-HATE it)

So……. Europe seems to still be looming large, but our current lease is almost up and we don’t want to commit to another year here. Meanwhile, my husbands opportunities are exploding in a really great way. It is actually super exciting to see him this way. It’s amazing when you take a leap of faith and you get out from under the seemingly “safe” option, and you just leap out there for all you’re worth……and  the doors just swing WIDE OPEN. It is all quite incredible. It all just FEELS right and we have a lot to be thankful for.

packing and moving
Slowly emptying out 5000 square feet of house. The top floor is almost done! The futon comes with us.

That whole part is all really exciting when I think about it. But usually I am just thinking about things like our next landing spot and wether or not I actually NEED 3 crockpots. I think about our kids mostly and all of their plans and endeavors. We try to take an advisory, back seat role in their plans, piping in when we are asked. And we try to be sure that they have some kind of safety net should they ever need it. Much like it was when they would go across the monkey bars when they were little.

packing and moving
One of the things I loved about this house was that it had a dedicated gym.

I am also missing my family in Virginia. I want to get home so badly for a visit. At the moment, that is going to have to wait. I really miss them.

I have about a thousand posts in my head to be written, but not much time to write at the moment. My current goal is to schedule a once a week post until we are moved to the new, magical, mystery spot.

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This emptied out sunroom is my current favorite place to write!

It turns out that 5000 square feet of house is a lot to pack, but I’m on schedule and after moving 5 times in 5 years- I’m practically a pro. Honestly, except for my carefully packed memories, I think I would just pile the furniture in the yard and set fire to it.  After 5 moves, you are ready to live your life out of a backpack.

OH and here’s a fun thing- today I realized that after packing all of our big mirrors and just being stuck here at the house by myself, I hadn’t gazed into a mirror for 3 days. THREE. DAYS. PEOPLE. But fret not chickens, I shall return to my reasonably high maintenance self after we get moved,but right now I’m in “get sh*t done” mode and I guess it’s just not pretty. This is what sturdy girls do. We go all in and get it done. Our freak outs are few and the ones we do have are kept under cloak. We organize the daylights out of a situation, lay out a plan and then roll up our sleeves and make it happen. And thats where I am.

I’ll be honest, I am not getting in any real work outs in right now, except running up and down the stairs with boxes. We are down to the point that we are eating for convenience more than anything else. I make a couple of large casserole type meals at the beginning of the week and thats lunch. I still make dinner each night but it’s usually something that doesn’t take too long: fish tacos, steaks, chicken enchiladas, etc. Winston and I still take a long walk every day to our favorite spots out here and I truly feel blessed to have spent time in this beautiful place. I truly love Colorado.

Taking an early morning walk as the sun rises and splashes on the mountains is one of my favorite things.

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And then there are the lights of Colorado Springs in the evenings. This is the view from the house, looking toward the city.

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As we prepare for our next hop, I guess I am feeling more excited than anything. I will miss it here. I will miss the friends that I’ve made and I know I will see many of them again. But the way forward feels good. It feels right. It feels like a new adventure and I am happy to have my family to experience it with me. I’m beginning to think adventure just may be what we do best!

I’ll leave you with a picture taken today of my favorite feature of this house, the back deck. It stretches across the entire back of the house and has a beautiful view of the mountains.

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A blanket of fresh, spring snow.

Thanks for allowing me to get a little personal on here today and thanks so much for reading and commenting. I truly have the best followers. Let me know if you like seeing the inside of the house- I’ll be sure to add more and give you a good look at wherever our next abode will be!

Cheers!

Melissa

 

 

 

If you are Over 40, your hormones may be ruining your life. Here’s what you can do about it.

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Hormonal balance. It is one of the keys to a joyful existence and if you are a woman over 40- it’s worth your time and effort to pursue that balance. I am not a medical professional and this is in no way to be considered to be medical advice. But I want to share my story and what I have learned about estrogen dominance and finding hormonal balance.

When your hormones are in balance, you feel great. You have energy, a healthy sex drive and a normal appetite. You sleep better and basically all the systems of your body are working as they should and you feel amazing. Remember that? Back when you were….oh, I dunno…..20?

Do you have trouble getting restful sleep at night? Are you noticing unexplained fat gain around your middle even though you haven’t changed a thing in your diet or exercise? Are you irritable or depressed to the point that your reactions don’t really fit the situation? Is your thinking “foggy”? Are you experiencing a decreased sex drive? Are you forgetful? Do you often have cold hands and feet? These are just a few of the symptoms of estrogen dominance. If you are experiencing these symptoms, you owe it to yourself and everyone around you to take a simple hormone saliva profile test and find relief!

The things in the above list are the main things that I was struggling with. And while I could sort of brush aside most of the symptoms and blame them on something else, there were two that I simply could not live with: the unexplained weight gain and the horrible irritability. NOTHING was working. Honestly- I couldn’t even stand myself and I couldn’t figure out what had happened to turn me into this monster! I could see my husband was trying to figure out what was going on as well- at a later date he confessed that he thought to himself, “GREAT. I broke her.”

As for me, I was just thinking, “Well….. Here we go. This is it. THE BIG M. I’m there. It was good run- but it’s over. May as well, start growing a little hunch back so my shawl won’t slip off.” It was a bleak time.

I am a pretty proactive person by nature and I simply could not live like this. Enter the Saliva Hormone Test . This was a simple test offered by ZRT Laboratories. You order the test, spit in a few tubes, and send them back. You will receive easy to read laboratory results to help you decide how to proceed if in fact, hormonal imbalance is contributing to your issues.(Your doctor may also order this test). You can take these results with you to your doctor who understands hormonal imbalance, to find a way forward. If  your doctor does NOT understand hormones- find one who does. Any HINT of “Sorry-it’s just part of aging” or ” You just need something to help your feelings-Here’s an anti depressant”…..get a second opinion. Either of the above statements MAY be correct in some cases, but you owe it to yourself to find a medical professional who at least understands hormones, before settling for either of those statements.

Estrogen Dominance- What is it?

Brace yourself for the most simplistic and non-medical description of estrogen dominance ever. I have links below to professional explanations and research- in the meantime- here’s mine:

Some time around 40 your levels of estrogen and progesterone begin to decline. Totally normal. However, while your estrogen drops at about a 35% rate, your PROGESTERONE levels can take a 75% drop! Thats estrogen dominance- the over abundance of estrogen PAIRED WITH the simultaneous lack of progesterone to level things out. The balance of both is the key.

Sistas, you heard it here first:

Balance keeps the b*tch away.

hormones over 40

You can read more about the reasons for the imbalance, as well as links to several studies, here .

Estrogen Dominance: What you can do about it.

After finding that I was estrogen dominant, two ridiculously simple things set me back to my normal self.  The results were amazing and were very fast- including the dropping of the extra pounds I had put on. Again- I didn’t change a thing except adding these two things to my day:

  1. Progesterone cream
  2. DIM supplement

Along with my proactive nature, I am also a natural skeptic. I expected ZERO results from either of these things. In less than 2 weeks after beginning the progesterone cream, my moods became stable I was no longer anxious and my cycle returned to normal. I began sleeping well again and my energy levels were great and the brain fog that I had been experiencing, was completely gone. I felt GOOD again.

DIM was completely new to me. DIM is a naturally occurring phytonutrient found in cruciferous vegetables. It promotes the metabolism of excess estrogen. Body builders have used this supplement for years, since the last thing they need is excess estrogen floating around their bodies! Well, it turns out I don’t need excess either. I experienced some detox symptoms the first few days taking this, mainly in the form of a headache. But after that initial reaction- wow! I won’t be without it. This was the second part of the 1-2 punch that put my hormones back in balance. These two things restored me to myself again. I was so shocked and so happy.And so was my poor husband! And yes, absolutely- the difference was notable to him as well- and honestly, he’s a simple man and we’ve been married for 27 years, so it takes a bit for him to sit up and take notice.

There is much, much more involved in hormone balance and many more things to consider for your own personal situation. For instance, prescription drugs, birth control…….even improper digestion can cause your estrogen imbalance, since estrogen can be reabsorbed into the body if your digestive system isn’t working properly.

I hope that my experience will encourage you to find answers for your particular situation. You don’t have to live with these symptoms and I don’t think you were meant to. Do the research and seek out the help you need to make you feel good again! I’ve linked some sights below to get you started.

Energetic Nutrition

John R. Lee, MD

Christiane Northrup, MD

I hope that this is helpful to you now or in some way in the future. I have loads of personal updates on life in general to give you. Life went a little sideways but its all coming back around- can’t wait to fill you in! Thanks for reading, commenting and sharing!

Cheers! Here’s to not throwing in the towel, just yet!

~Melissa