Your Over 40 Expert; The most truth you will ever read about being over 40.

In spite of the upcoming move, I have loads of things in the works to share with you! I have been scouring the planet, via the www, to find new and exciting things  that will REALLY make a difference for you over 40. I greet each new product, procedure and idea with an unmatched bitterness and skepticism, so a “find” is truly that…..a small miracle.the brutally honest (and hysterical) truth about being Over 40...and what you can do about it.

But lets get honest here. I feel like many of our physical struggles Over 40 are similar, so I try to focus on those. Any of these sound familiar?

  • Whats the BEST way to lose weight Over 40 and keep it off? (no BS tofu diet, either…..I won’t have it.)
  • What the hell is wrong with my face and why doesn’t my old makeup and skincare regimen work anymore?
  • Great. I’m blind now. What are my options in eye wear?
  • Tightening……I need tightening everywhere.
  • How can I dress in a somewhat current fashion, but hide……all of this.
  • My lashes are thinner, my brows are thinner, but OMG I feel like I need a full on face shave!
  • Arm flab and back fat…..the struggle is real.
  • Have I been frowning for the past 40 years straight? Whats up with that massive crevice between my eyes and what can I do about it?
  • How does one properly sport ones new turkey neck?
  • Jowls. I am getting honest to God jowls.
  • My ponytail is now as thick as it was when I was 3 years old. Is this normal?
  • My back hurts and I’ve begun answering to the name “Brittle Hips”.
  • What fresh new hell is this? My CLEAVAGE has wrinkles?
  • OMG- I pee when I run. (thanks kids)
  • Ummmm……….gray hair?
  • What the hell is contouring?.. And do I want it?
  • I don’t have the budget of a Kardashian, so what options are available for ME?
  • When did my breasts grow to the size of cantaloupes?……..And why are they trying to hurl themselves straight to the floor?
  • Bangs or Botox….that is the question. Also…. is there a Groupon for that?

Sistas, I feel your pain. Only a fellow comrade swimming in the Over 40 waters could have written the above, brutally honest (and hopefully humorous) list. I am making it my life’s mission to deal with these issues. I am not interested in being 20 something again…..I AM interested in meeting aging head on and dealing with it on my own terms. I want what WORKS.

I want to put out all the available anti aging options and in all the available budget categories.   I will be your curator. I will leave no stone unturned and no budgetary restrictions unaccounted for. We will crack the code on French women and their skin! Damn them and all their late night wine drinking, smoking and drop dead gorgeous skin.<shaking clenched fist to the sky> We will find the procedures and products worth your time and hard earned dollars.The site that's dishing all the dirt on Life Over 40!

I am up to the task.

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Here’s to being over 40 and not throwing in the towel!

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Cheers!

~Melissa

How to get the most amazingly soft lips!

Treat Beauty Lip Balms, I am completely obsessed. You can have soft lips again with the most deliciously minimal effort!soft lips over 40

I’ve told you before how dry the air is here in Colorado. This is wonderful for personal comfort. Who doesn’t love warm, dry sunshine all the time? But it’s not so wonderful for my skin…specifically my lips. I kid you not, we were ordering chap stick by the case out here. It was the only thing that kept my lips from looking like I had just hiked across a vast desert without a drop of water.

I have tried all of the popular lip products. The expensive stuff, as well as all natural ingredients all the way to the supposedly tried and true grocery store brands (Carmex anyone? yes- I was that desperate). They ALL failed in one way or another. And Chap stick only worked as a protectant if you kept reapplying continually (thus the bulk orders). The struggle was real friends.

From the moment I frantically tore open the package, I was intrigued. My first purchase was the jumbo sized sugar cookie scented balm. Oh my sweet goodness. Why is Smell-a-Vision not a thing yet?? Way to go science. Because these lip balms smell absolutely delicious. After sniffing my new jumbo stick about 10 times and saying “yum” repeatedly, I tried the balm on my dry, crusty lips.

Hooked. Ladies and gentleman, we’ve got ourselves a miracle cream here.

This is the stuff. It actually moisturizes your lips. It isn’t just protecting, it softens them instantly and continues to improve their appearance and texture the more you use it.

But wait- theres more.

They also make a lip scrub that I tried as well. Have you ever used a lip scrub? It typically involves scooping your fingers down inside a little jar of coarse goo, rubbing it on your lips and then getting it all back off again- hopefully with the dry skin too. Well hold the phone because Treat makes a lip scrub……in a STICK. Do you know whats in it? Umm….sugar. I got the marshmallow cream flavor  scent and it’s amazing. It is so convenient and delicious, I find myself using it daily.

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I keep it at my vanity and use it in the mornings. Using the scrub plus the lip balm has worked so well and made my lips incredibly soft again! Soft lips! Like the lips of my youth! (Only with some added lines damnit. But thats a post for another day.)

The ingredients are all organic: coconut oil, Shea butter, beeswax, etc. And the product is made in the USA and is cruelty free.  Their byline says “Every Treat is made with ingredients so pure, you can eat them.” I may or may not have done this. Also, because of the moisturizing organic ingredients, if one were to, hypothetically speaking, go to bed without using your moisturizers and serums, you can just use this around your eyes as a moisturizer. You know……I mean- if you know anyone that lazy. Just keepin’ it real sistas.soft lips over 40

They sell for less than $14 at Treat Beauty and you can also get them through Amazon. The flavors are amazing: marshmallow cream, bubble gum, soft candy, peaches and cream, coconut cream, hot cocoa and more. Whats not to absolutely love?


The organic ingredients, cute packaging and good price point also make these great gifts. I sent some to my cutie pie- 8 year old niece Maisie, and she loves it.Treat Beauty organic lip balm

As for me, I am now working on hoarding all the flavors. I have one on my night stand, my vanity, in my car, in my purse and by the kitchen sink. If you want soft lips, this is your answer. And can we all just say a little prayer of thanks that in this day and age of high dollar procedures, this one is wonderfully inexpensive!

So, Treat yo’self! And enjoy your soft lips again.

Cheers!

Melissa

If you are Over 40, your hormones may be ruining your life. Here’s what you can do about it.

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Hormonal balance. It is one of the keys to a joyful existence and if you are a woman over 40- it’s worth your time and effort to pursue that balance. I am not a medical professional and this is in no way to be considered to be medical advice. But I want to share my story and what I have learned about estrogen dominance and finding hormonal balance.

When your hormones are in balance, you feel great. You have energy, a healthy sex drive and a normal appetite. You sleep better and basically all the systems of your body are working as they should and you feel amazing. Remember that? Back when you were….oh, I dunno…..20?

Do you have trouble getting restful sleep at night? Are you noticing unexplained fat gain around your middle even though you haven’t changed a thing in your diet or exercise? Are you irritable or depressed to the point that your reactions don’t really fit the situation? Is your thinking “foggy”? Are you experiencing a decreased sex drive? Are you forgetful? Do you often have cold hands and feet? These are just a few of the symptoms of estrogen dominance. If you are experiencing these symptoms, you owe it to yourself and everyone around you to take a simple hormone saliva profile test and find relief!

The things in the above list are the main things that I was struggling with. And while I could sort of brush aside most of the symptoms and blame them on something else, there were two that I simply could not live with: the unexplained weight gain and the horrible irritability. NOTHING was working. Honestly- I couldn’t even stand myself and I couldn’t figure out what had happened to turn me into this monster! I could see my husband was trying to figure out what was going on as well- at a later date he confessed that he thought to himself, “GREAT. I broke her.”

As for me, I was just thinking, “Well….. Here we go. This is it. THE BIG M. I’m there. It was good run- but it’s over. May as well, start growing a little hunch back so my shawl won’t slip off.” It was a bleak time.

I am a pretty proactive person by nature and I simply could not live like this. Enter the Saliva Hormone Test . This was a simple test offered by ZRT Laboratories. You order the test, spit in a few tubes, and send them back. You will receive easy to read laboratory results to help you decide how to proceed if in fact, hormonal imbalance is contributing to your issues.(Your doctor may also order this test). You can take these results with you to your doctor who understands hormonal imbalance, to find a way forward. If  your doctor does NOT understand hormones- find one who does. Any HINT of “Sorry-it’s just part of aging” or ” You just need something to help your feelings-Here’s an anti depressant”…..get a second opinion. Either of the above statements MAY be correct in some cases, but you owe it to yourself to find a medical professional who at least understands hormones, before settling for either of those statements.

Estrogen Dominance- What is it?

Brace yourself for the most simplistic and non-medical description of estrogen dominance ever. I have links below to professional explanations and research- in the meantime- here’s mine:

Some time around 40 your levels of estrogen and progesterone begin to decline. Totally normal. However, while your estrogen drops at about a 35% rate, your PROGESTERONE levels can take a 75% drop! Thats estrogen dominance- the over abundance of estrogen PAIRED WITH the simultaneous lack of progesterone to level things out. The balance of both is the key.

Sistas, you heard it here first:

Balance keeps the b*tch away.

hormones over 40

You can read more about the reasons for the imbalance, as well as links to several studies, here .

Estrogen Dominance: What you can do about it.

After finding that I was estrogen dominant, two ridiculously simple things set me back to my normal self.  The results were amazing and were very fast- including the dropping of the extra pounds I had put on. Again- I didn’t change a thing except adding these two things to my day:

  1. Progesterone cream
  2. DIM supplement

Along with my proactive nature, I am also a natural skeptic. I expected ZERO results from either of these things. In less than 2 weeks after beginning the progesterone cream, my moods became stable I was no longer anxious and my cycle returned to normal. I began sleeping well again and my energy levels were great and the brain fog that I had been experiencing, was completely gone. I felt GOOD again.

DIM was completely new to me. DIM is a naturally occurring phytonutrient found in cruciferous vegetables. It promotes the metabolism of excess estrogen. Body builders have used this supplement for years, since the last thing they need is excess estrogen floating around their bodies! Well, it turns out I don’t need excess either. I experienced some detox symptoms the first few days taking this, mainly in the form of a headache. But after that initial reaction- wow! I won’t be without it. This was the second part of the 1-2 punch that put my hormones back in balance. These two things restored me to myself again. I was so shocked and so happy.And so was my poor husband! And yes, absolutely- the difference was notable to him as well- and honestly, he’s a simple man and we’ve been married for 27 years, so it takes a bit for him to sit up and take notice.

There is much, much more involved in hormone balance and many more things to consider for your own personal situation. For instance, prescription drugs, birth control…….even improper digestion can cause your estrogen imbalance, since estrogen can be reabsorbed into the body if your digestive system isn’t working properly.

I hope that my experience will encourage you to find answers for your particular situation. You don’t have to live with these symptoms and I don’t think you were meant to. Do the research and seek out the help you need to make you feel good again! I’ve linked some sights below to get you started.

Energetic Nutrition

John R. Lee, MD

Christiane Northrup, MD

I hope that this is helpful to you now or in some way in the future. I have loads of personal updates on life in general to give you. Life went a little sideways but its all coming back around- can’t wait to fill you in! Thanks for reading, commenting and sharing!

Cheers! Here’s to not throwing in the towel, just yet!

~Melissa

 

What Worked Wednesday! Egyptian Magic Skin Cream

After reading the glowing report from the beautiful- skinned blogger Amanda, over at The Bellezza Corner, I figured I should give Egyptian Magic a whirl. Honestly, with a name like “Egyptian Magic Skin Cream” how can ones curiosity not be piqued?

What Worked Wednesday, Egyptian Magic Skin Cream for Women Over 40I have been giving Egyptian Magic such a vigorous trial because I get so tired of people offering glowing reports on a product that they tried, only to have them toss it out 2 months later in favor of the next “new” thing. Honestly, at my age, I’m looking for stuff that WORKS. I’ve lived through the days where my bathroom counter was literally covered with “special” serums, lotions, oils and creams. These days, I need something sturdy, people. Any product I use needs to get the job done quickly with as with as little fanfare as possible, after I stumble groggily to my vanity table each morning.

And friends, thats why you can trust my reviews……..Because I greet each and every new product with bitter, hopeless, skepticism. You’re welcome.

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Egyptian Magic Skin Cream: What is it?

Egyptian Magic Skin Cream is an all natural, all purpose skin cream with 6 ingredients that are touted to be some of the most powerful that nature has to offer for moisturizing as well as healing. The formula itself is said to have been found in the tomb of Egyptian pharos and it’s also been called “Cleopatras Cream”. It’s a cult favorite in Hollywood and has been raved about around the world. Celebrities like Kate Hudson, Brooke Shields, Eva Mendez, Lauren Conrad and loads more, all swear by this cream. The ingredients are simply : Olive oil, beeswax, honey, bee pollen, royal jelly and propolis extract.

Thats it.

You and I have been around the block a time or two with various skin care products and we all know that these products, found in nature, are the ones heralded again and again to be the best. Every product likes to shout out if they have one of these ingredients in them. Here they are, all in one, simple jar.

It has a faint honey smell and is balm-like in the jar. It melts to an oil on your fingertips. (And the millennial’s believe that THEY were the ones to discover that “oil is the new lotion”.)   Women over 40, Egyptian Magic Skin Cream

What Does it Do?

Well, that’s a loaded question. The better question would be what DOESN’T it do? The word “all purpose” is on the jar and it lives up to that claim! Of course its a lovely and very moisturizing skin cream, but it doesn’t stop there. Uses range from lip balm,to make up remover, to hair mask, to diaper rash! It is said to heal everything from acne scars to stretch marks. People who suffer with eczema and psoriasis have also experienced great results with Egyptian Magic Skin Cream, which really speaks to it’s moisturizing and healing properties. Multi purpose is the name of the game with this product.

How do you use it?

Per the directions on the jar: “Take a moderate amount and rub it in your palms until it takes the form of oil, which improves absorption. Apply it gently over skin.”

For me personally, I have been using this over my night-time, anti aging cream. I slather this stuff on liberally and my skin is soft and supple in the morning. Moisturize it DOES. In fact, I would use it on dry skin anywhere: lips, elbows, feet, etc. With a nod to the millennial generation,  another favorite use is as a make-up remover and “oil cleanser” before my Clarisonic. Thats right……….the double cleanse- because I’m up on sh*z like that.

I use it as a hand moisturizer and it has helped my horrible cuticles tremendously. Why are my cuticles so bad anyway?  Honestly, there must be some grizzled field hand walking around with lovely hands that were supposed to be mine.

From now on, whenever I travel, Egyptian Magic is what I will take on the plane with me. At my age, long haul flights will leave your skin parched no matter HOW many cocktails you begrudgingly avoid and no matter HOW much water you drink. This could be a lifesaver.

How Much is it and Where can you buy it?

If you search online, you will find loads of places that offer Egyptian Magic Skin Cream. I got mine on Amazon for $29. You can also check it out and order straight from Egyptian Magic  . With the tiny amount needed per use, a 4 oz jar will last you forever! If you use the correct amount, it is not greasy.

My Conclusion

While not “magic” in the sense of making wrinkles disappear, (Good Lord! Get a move-on science!), it does exactly what it says and is incredibly moisturizing and healing. I also love that the company kept the old, throw back packaging.

(which is why my can’t-be-bothered-with-skin-care, Bush Ranger daughter in South Africa, has a fresh jar sitting on her tent shelf).

In addition, Egyptian Magic is made in the USA and  the company stands behind their product by offering a 100% money back guarantee if not satisfied. Hard to argue with that.

Also Good to Know
  1. Your husband may try to sneak it.
  2. Your dog will love it. Like seriously…..he will want to eat it.

    Women over 40; Saint Bernards love Egyptian Magic
    Every. Single. Day. He Loves it.

Let me know what you think if you give this wonderful, all natural cream a try. It now holds a coveted spot on my vanity table.Women over 40, egyptian magic skin cream

Thank you for reading, commenting and sharing!

Cheers!

Melissa

 

 

Lash Lift and Tint; What is it and do you want it?

If you are over 40, you may have noticed that your lashes, just aren’t what they used to be. I have had great lashes my whole life (thanks, dad). But after turning 40, I noticed that they started becoming shorter and lighter. Well awesome. In a previous post I told you all about Lash Extensions. I am STILL a huge fan. But if that is more upkeep and $$ than you’d like to spend, but your lashes still need some ooompf- you may want to try the Lash Lift and Tint.

Lash Lift and Tint

Before and After

Before Lash Lift and tint

What is a lash lift?

The lash lift is where, your lashes are brushed up and over a little soft “rod”. They are held in place while a “perming” solution is applied. This is left on for a few minutes, then removed and a “setting” solution is applied. Now, if at this point, you are hearkening back to your old “poodle perm” days, I will tell you this- you WILL remember that smell! It is super faint, since so little is used,but- yeah- you’ll be taken straight back to your mom’s old hometown salon.

Lash Lift Process

The setting solution is rinsed off and your lashes are dried with a soft fan. IF, unlike me, you still have dark lashes- you can call it quits at his point. The effect is amazing! Your lashes are lifted and curled in that beautiful “D” curl. Really stunning- and this lasts for at least 8 weeks and up to 12 weeks! The only rule, is the same old cardinal rule upheld religiously when you got a perm in 8th grade: You are forbidden to wet your hair (lashes) for the first 24 hours; fist bump to Elle Woods in Legally Blonde. Thats it!

After that, your lash lift is complete and you have the freedom to sleep, shower, and even <gasp> rub your eyes! Lashes stay curled. You can use mascara, false lashes….whatever.

I went a step further and had my lashes tinted as well.Lash lift and tint My lashes had always been black, so this really took them back to my own natural look.

I really love the effect! After lash lift and tint
The entire Lash Lift and Tint process takes an hour or less from start to finish. It feels nice. I experienced nothing but a relaxing procedure that felt like someone was massaging my lash line. There was soft music playing and it was just an incredibly relaxing experience. There was no discomfort at all.

Do you want it?

If you have a good amount of natural lashes, but you want them to just stand out more, then a lash lift will be your best friend. You can add the tint if you want it.

If you don’t want the upkeep of lash extensions but you just want your natural lashes to “pop” more without any effort, then go for the lash lift and/or tint.

If you don’t necessarily care for LONGER lashes, but you just want to give your natural lashes a boost, then definitely go for the lash lift and tint.

If you still like to wear false lashes, heavy mascara, etc for special occasions, then yep- go for the lash lift and tint.

If you love a natural look and just don’t want to fool with an eyelash curler and mascara in the morning, go for the lash lift.

How much is it and where do you get it done?

Here in Colorado Springs, the going rate for a lash lift is $50 and for the lift and tint it is $75. Definitely look to an experienced esthetician and show up without any makeup.  In my area I highly recommend Kelly at Glistening Glory . She is professional, competitively priced and will put you at ease immediately with whatever procedure you are enjoying.

By the way- if you ever have to take and post pictures of yourself this close up……..you’d better feel pretty confident with yourself! Holy Cow- talk about keepin’ it real!  I need brow help-and a stiff drink- after these pictures!….. (But it’s only Tuesday- so, I’ll just have to wait until the weekend, <insert wimper>).

How are your lashes holding up after 40?

Cheers!

Melissa