Your Over 40 Expert; The most truth you will ever read about being over 40.

In spite of the upcoming move, I have loads of things in the works to share with you! I have been scouring the planet, via the www, to find new and exciting things  that will REALLY make a difference for you over 40. I greet each new product, procedure and idea with an unmatched bitterness and skepticism, so a “find” is truly that…..a small miracle.the brutally honest (and hysterical) truth about being Over 40...and what you can do about it.

But lets get honest here. I feel like many of our physical struggles Over 40 are similar, so I try to focus on those. Any of these sound familiar?

  • Whats the BEST way to lose weight Over 40 and keep it off? (no BS tofu diet, either…..I won’t have it.)
  • What the hell is wrong with my face and why doesn’t my old makeup and skincare regimen work anymore?
  • Great. I’m blind now. What are my options in eye wear?
  • Tightening……I need tightening everywhere.
  • How can I dress in a somewhat current fashion, but hide……all of this.
  • My lashes are thinner, my brows are thinner, but OMG I feel like I need a full on face shave!
  • Arm flab and back fat…..the struggle is real.
  • Have I been frowning for the past 40 years straight? Whats up with that massive crevice between my eyes and what can I do about it?
  • How does one properly sport ones new turkey neck?
  • Jowls. I am getting honest to God jowls.
  • My ponytail is now as thick as it was when I was 3 years old. Is this normal?
  • My back hurts and I’ve begun answering to the name “Brittle Hips”.
  • What fresh new hell is this? My CLEAVAGE has wrinkles?
  • OMG- I pee when I run. (thanks kids)
  • Ummmm……….gray hair?
  • What the hell is contouring?.. And do I want it?
  • I don’t have the budget of a Kardashian, so what options are available for ME?
  • When did my breasts grow to the size of cantaloupes?……..And why are they trying to hurl themselves straight to the floor?
  • Bangs or Botox….that is the question. Also…. is there a Groupon for that?

Sistas, I feel your pain. Only a fellow comrade swimming in the Over 40 waters could have written the above, brutally honest (and hopefully humorous) list. I am making it my life’s mission to deal with these issues. I am not interested in being 20 something again…..I AM interested in meeting aging head on and dealing with it on my own terms. I want what WORKS.

I want to put out all the available anti aging options and in all the available budget categories.   I will be your curator. I will leave no stone unturned and no budgetary restrictions unaccounted for. We will crack the code on French women and their skin! Damn them and all their late night wine drinking, smoking and drop dead gorgeous skin.<shaking clenched fist to the sky> We will find the procedures and products worth your time and hard earned dollars.The site that's dishing all the dirt on Life Over 40!

I am up to the task.

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Here’s to being over 40 and not throwing in the towel!

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Cheers!

~Melissa

If you are Over 40, your hormones may be ruining your life. Here’s what you can do about it.

Disclosure: This post contains affiliate links, which means that if you click on one of the product links, I’ll receive a percentage.

Hormonal balance. It is one of the keys to a joyful existence and if you are a woman over 40- it’s worth your time and effort to pursue that balance. I am not a medical professional and this is in no way to be considered to be medical advice. But I want to share my story and what I have learned about estrogen dominance and finding hormonal balance.

When your hormones are in balance, you feel great. You have energy, a healthy sex drive and a normal appetite. You sleep better and basically all the systems of your body are working as they should and you feel amazing. Remember that? Back when you were….oh, I dunno…..20?

Do you have trouble getting restful sleep at night? Are you noticing unexplained fat gain around your middle even though you haven’t changed a thing in your diet or exercise? Are you irritable or depressed to the point that your reactions don’t really fit the situation? Is your thinking “foggy”? Are you experiencing a decreased sex drive? Are you forgetful? Do you often have cold hands and feet? These are just a few of the symptoms of estrogen dominance. If you are experiencing these symptoms, you owe it to yourself and everyone around you to take a simple hormone saliva profile test and find relief!

The things in the above list are the main things that I was struggling with. And while I could sort of brush aside most of the symptoms and blame them on something else, there were two that I simply could not live with: the unexplained weight gain and the horrible irritability. NOTHING was working. Honestly- I couldn’t even stand myself and I couldn’t figure out what had happened to turn me into this monster! I could see my husband was trying to figure out what was going on as well- at a later date he confessed that he thought to himself, “GREAT. I broke her.”

As for me, I was just thinking, “Well….. Here we go. This is it. THE BIG M. I’m there. It was good run- but it’s over. May as well, start growing a little hunch back so my shawl won’t slip off.” It was a bleak time.

I am a pretty proactive person by nature and I simply could not live like this. Enter the Saliva Hormone Test . This was a simple test offered by ZRT Laboratories. You order the test, spit in a few tubes, and send them back. You will receive easy to read laboratory results to help you decide how to proceed if in fact, hormonal imbalance is contributing to your issues.(Your doctor may also order this test). You can take these results with you to your doctor who understands hormonal imbalance, to find a way forward. If  your doctor does NOT understand hormones- find one who does. Any HINT of “Sorry-it’s just part of aging” or ” You just need something to help your feelings-Here’s an anti depressant”…..get a second opinion. Either of the above statements MAY be correct in some cases, but you owe it to yourself to find a medical professional who at least understands hormones, before settling for either of those statements.

Estrogen Dominance- What is it?

Brace yourself for the most simplistic and non-medical description of estrogen dominance ever. I have links below to professional explanations and research- in the meantime- here’s mine:

Some time around 40 your levels of estrogen and progesterone begin to decline. Totally normal. However, while your estrogen drops at about a 35% rate, your PROGESTERONE levels can take a 75% drop! Thats estrogen dominance- the over abundance of estrogen PAIRED WITH the simultaneous lack of progesterone to level things out. The balance of both is the key.

Sistas, you heard it here first:

Balance keeps the b*tch away.

hormones over 40

You can read more about the reasons for the imbalance, as well as links to several studies, here .

Estrogen Dominance: What you can do about it.

After finding that I was estrogen dominant, two ridiculously simple things set me back to my normal self.  The results were amazing and were very fast- including the dropping of the extra pounds I had put on. Again- I didn’t change a thing except adding these two things to my day:

  1. Progesterone cream
  2. DIM supplement

Along with my proactive nature, I am also a natural skeptic. I expected ZERO results from either of these things. In less than 2 weeks after beginning the progesterone cream, my moods became stable I was no longer anxious and my cycle returned to normal. I began sleeping well again and my energy levels were great and the brain fog that I had been experiencing, was completely gone. I felt GOOD again.

DIM was completely new to me. DIM is a naturally occurring phytonutrient found in cruciferous vegetables. It promotes the metabolism of excess estrogen. Body builders have used this supplement for years, since the last thing they need is excess estrogen floating around their bodies! Well, it turns out I don’t need excess either. I experienced some detox symptoms the first few days taking this, mainly in the form of a headache. But after that initial reaction- wow! I won’t be without it. This was the second part of the 1-2 punch that put my hormones back in balance. These two things restored me to myself again. I was so shocked and so happy.And so was my poor husband! And yes, absolutely- the difference was notable to him as well- and honestly, he’s a simple man and we’ve been married for 27 years, so it takes a bit for him to sit up and take notice.

There is much, much more involved in hormone balance and many more things to consider for your own personal situation. For instance, prescription drugs, birth control…….even improper digestion can cause your estrogen imbalance, since estrogen can be reabsorbed into the body if your digestive system isn’t working properly.

I hope that my experience will encourage you to find answers for your particular situation. You don’t have to live with these symptoms and I don’t think you were meant to. Do the research and seek out the help you need to make you feel good again! I’ve linked some sights below to get you started.

Energetic Nutrition

John R. Lee, MD

Christiane Northrup, MD

I hope that this is helpful to you now or in some way in the future. I have loads of personal updates on life in general to give you. Life went a little sideways but its all coming back around- can’t wait to fill you in! Thanks for reading, commenting and sharing!

Cheers! Here’s to not throwing in the towel, just yet!

~Melissa

 

What Worked Wednesday: Adding lemon water in my morning routine

This weeks “What Worked Wednesday” is about adding warm lemon water to my morning routine. I’ve been doing this for about 3 months now, and I’m never going back. It seriously improves how I feel in the morning. I feel more energetic and awake than I ever did drinking coffee.Adding warm lemon water to my morning routine

It has helped me to cut back on my morning coffee consumption. I love to have a cup of coffee around midday, but after drinking  several cups in the morning, and then another one around midday, I found that it was wreaking havoc on my energy levels as well as my overall mood. Drinking lemon water first thing in the morning has helped me to cut back to only one cup of coffee in the morning, freeing me up to still enjoy another cup later in the day, with no caffein backlash!adding lemon water to my morning routine

While I actually enjoy warm lemon water, it took me awhile to actually create the habit. My mornings were set in stone and if I got to the kitchen, I was already pouring that coffee before I could even think about the lemon water. So, I set out to disrupt myself in the mornings. I set up a little station in our master bath, right beside my vanity table. It has an electric kettle along with my tea cup and a few lemons. Its easy to hit the button on the kettle, squeeze some lemon into a cup and sip away while I am getting myself pulled together first thing in the morning.(I don’t even let the cat see me in the morning before I’ve at least got my hair tamed and the sleep look off my face. I can’t tell if she appreciates it. Cats don’t care about anything.)  I love it when I can trick myself into a healthier habit. adding lemon water to my morning routineLater in the morning, I’ll get my coffee and head out the door to walk Winston.

Perhaps the biggest improvement I have experienced since starting the lemon water habit, is in my digestion. A notable difference. Which, in turn automatically improves my energy levels. As you sleep at night, your liver is doing double time to eliminate toxins and restore and regenerate your body. Drinking water first thing in the morning helps to be sure it can complete this process……. adding the lemon is a bonus.

A Few Benefits of Lemon Water
*Vitamin C, Potassium and magnesium

Drinking lemon water first thing in the morning gives your body a chance to absorb these minerals right away.

*Clearer skin

Due to the flushing effect, along with the Vitamin C absorption, it can lead to clearer skin.

*Help with weight loss

Studies show that after drinking 17 oz of water, metabolic rates increased by 30% and lasted for about 40 minutes. Now, thats no miracle weight loss drink, but what an easy thing to do to give yourself a boost!

If you have trouble with your adrenals or high cortisol levels, or if you’re just stressed to the max- try adding a few cups of warm lemon water to your routine first thing in the morning. This will definitely be a better alternative for you than caffeine in your system first thing in the morning! I think you will see a noticable difference.adding lemon water to my morning routine

Remember your liver- it’s been working all night long- throw it a bone and help it to finish that flush with a few cups of warm lemon water. It works.

Thanks for being here and for reading and sharing my posts! You guys are the best!

Ooo- I almost forgot- I’m trying a new lash procedure next week. I’ll be sure to give you all the details! I’m excited!!!

Cheers!

Melissa

The skinny on weight loss over 40; Four Changes for Success

Weight loss over 40 can be a huge challenge. If you have noticed that your mid section has suddenly become softer and that you seem to pack on pounds around your middle just LOOKING at a donut, you’re not crazy.  Lower estrogen levels are just one factor that is causing you to have to sport a new muffin top that you simply don’t seem to be able to shake!

The good news: If you really want to get in shape, lose that midsection and feel energetic and confident, you can!Weight Loss Success Over 40; 4 changes you must make

However….. (here it comes)……..you’ve got to make some changes. While we will get into the physical fitness part soon, today I want to convince you just how important it is for you to nail the nutrition piece. If you are  a woman over 40 trying to lose weight, you must realize that unlike in your 20’s and 30’s, exercise alone just isn’t enough. Lower estrogen levels, coupled with a natural decrease in muscle mass is doing a number on your metabolism. The things that didn’t really matter in your 20’s MATTER now. You MUST make the proper changes in your diet if you hope to see results.

The good news is that you really CAN slim that midsection and get in shape! And honestly, the changes aren’t all that bad, but they are crucial to your success.

Four changes for weight loss over 40

1. Track. Your. Food.

I can’t stress this enough. If you aren’t tracking your calorie and/or macro nutrient intake, you have no idea how much or how little you are eating. You need to track everything long enough to get a real visual of how much you should be eating. What it LOOKS like. There are so many things that can be revealed by tracking your food.

*Not getting enough fiber? = weight gain and bloating

*Getting too much salt?= weight gain and bloating

*Getting too much hidden sugar from processed foods?= weight gain and bloating

*Getting too many carbs and not enough protein?=weight gain and loss of muscle

These are just the outward results seen in the body, I haven’t even touched on the medical issues that can result from these diet deficiencies. These are just a few of the things that can be shown through food tracking that you could easily adjust to see results so much faster! If you are clueless how to do this, go here and then sign up for the free version of My Fitness Pal. Track that sh*z!

2. Lower your sugar intake.

You absolutely MUST lower your sugar intake to between 25 and 30 grams per day if you are over 40 and seeing the weight gain we have been talking about. Eating a diet without processed foods, will help you tremendously to cut your sugar. If you are already eating a fairly “clean” diet, then look to see where the sugar is creeping in. Fruit is great for you, but too much will cause your sugar intake to skyrocket! Are you drinking sodas? Maybe that midday sugar ladened latte every day? Find out where it’s coming from and make some cuts and exchanges.

3. Reduce your alcohol intake.

This one is the hardest for me. I LOVE LOVE my red wine! I also LOVE a well crafted cocktail! For me, wine and cocktails represent family, friends, relaxation…….I love them. But I can’t carelessly sip those drinks anymore without repercussions. Alcohol can’t be used for fuel, so it is turned straight to fat in the body.(Depressing, I know……it’s almost like it was MEANT to be enjoyed in moderation! <snort>) You will have to figure out what works best for you. For me personally, I have experienced wonderful results from cutting back my alcohol consumption to only a few drinks on the weekends. I sleep better, have more energy and my waist is slimming back down. I swapped out my red wine at night for a cup of hot tea or a glass of  kombucha (in a wine glass, because old habits die hard and I’m classy like that).

4. Eat more vegetables.

Learn to love ’em. It is ESSENTIAL that you get enough fiber. I personally shoot for 25-30 grams. Not only does fiber ensure that you are absorbing the macronutrients you need for muscle growth, but it helps move food through your intestines which takes energy….which improves your metabolism among other things!

Follow me on FACEBOOK where I post pictures of my own My Fitness Pal pages, lunch ideas, tips and just tips, hacks and encouragement to make life easier over 40, while trying to keep it real. You can also follow me on PINTEREST where my boards are allllllll about women over 40!

We are in this together!

Cheers! <Raising kombucha> and Happy Valentines Day! Here’s a cute picture of Winston sniffing (and licking…..weirdo) flowers. Eat the chocolates and then lets get started tomorrow!Weight Loss over 40! Happy Valentines Day!

Melissa