If you are Over 40, your hormones may be ruining your life. Here’s what you can do about it.

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Hormonal balance. It is one of the keys to a joyful existence and if you are a woman over 40- it’s worth your time and effort to pursue that balance. I am not a medical professional and this is in no way to be considered to be medical advice. But I want to share my story and what I have learned about estrogen dominance and finding hormonal balance.

When your hormones are in balance, you feel great. You have energy, a healthy sex drive and a normal appetite. You sleep better and basically all the systems of your body are working as they should and you feel amazing. Remember that? Back when you were….oh, I dunno…..20?

Do you have trouble getting restful sleep at night? Are you noticing unexplained fat gain around your middle even though you haven’t changed a thing in your diet or exercise? Are you irritable or depressed to the point that your reactions don’t really fit the situation? Is your thinking “foggy”? Are you experiencing a decreased sex drive? Are you forgetful? Do you often have cold hands and feet? These are just a few of the symptoms of estrogen dominance. If you are experiencing these symptoms, you owe it to yourself and everyone around you to take a simple hormone saliva profile test and find relief!

The things in the above list are the main things that I was struggling with. And while I could sort of brush aside most of the symptoms and blame them on something else, there were two that I simply could not live with: the unexplained weight gain and the horrible irritability. NOTHING was working. Honestly- I couldn’t even stand myself and I couldn’t figure out what had happened to turn me into this monster! I could see my husband was trying to figure out what was going on as well- at a later date he confessed that he thought to himself, “GREAT. I broke her.”

As for me, I was just thinking, “Well….. Here we go. This is it. THE BIG M. I’m there. It was good run- but it’s over. May as well, start growing a little hunch back so my shawl won’t slip off.” It was a bleak time.

I am a pretty proactive person by nature and I simply could not live like this. Enter the Saliva Hormone Test . This was a simple test offered by ZRT Laboratories. You order the test, spit in a few tubes, and send them back. You will receive easy to read laboratory results to help you decide how to proceed if in fact, hormonal imbalance is contributing to your issues.(Your doctor may also order this test). You can take these results with you to your doctor who understands hormonal imbalance, to find a way forward. If  your doctor does NOT understand hormones- find one who does. Any HINT of “Sorry-it’s just part of aging” or ” You just need something to help your feelings-Here’s an anti depressant”…..get a second opinion. Either of the above statements MAY be correct in some cases, but you owe it to yourself to find a medical professional who at least understands hormones, before settling for either of those statements.

Estrogen Dominance- What is it?

Brace yourself for the most simplistic and non-medical description of estrogen dominance ever. I have links below to professional explanations and research- in the meantime- here’s mine:

Some time around 40 your levels of estrogen and progesterone begin to decline. Totally normal. However, while your estrogen drops at about a 35% rate, your PROGESTERONE levels can take a 75% drop! Thats estrogen dominance- the over abundance of estrogen PAIRED WITH the simultaneous lack of progesterone to level things out. The balance of both is the key.

Sistas, you heard it here first:

Balance keeps the b*tch away.

hormones over 40

You can read more about the reasons for the imbalance, as well as links to several studies, here .[ctt template=”8″ link=”94rbe” via=”yes” nofollow=”yes”]Estrogen Dominance? Balance keeps the b*tch away.http://wp.me/p8dZDB-Hh[/ctt]

Estrogen Dominance: What you can do about it.

After finding that I was estrogen dominant, two ridiculously simple things set me back to my normal self.  The results were amazing and were very fast- including the dropping of the extra pounds I had put on. Again- I didn’t change a thing except adding these two things to my day:

  1. Progesterone cream
  2. DIM supplement

Along with my proactive nature, I am also a natural skeptic. I expected ZERO results from either of these things. In less than 2 weeks after beginning the progesterone cream, my moods became stable I was no longer anxious and my cycle returned to normal. I began sleeping well again and my energy levels were great and the brain fog that I had been experiencing, was completely gone. I felt GOOD again.

DIM was completely new to me. DIM is a naturally occurring phytonutrient found in cruciferous vegetables. It promotes the metabolism of excess estrogen. Body builders have used this supplement for years, since the last thing they need is excess estrogen floating around their bodies! Well, it turns out I don’t need excess either. I experienced some detox symptoms the first few days taking this, mainly in the form of a headache. But after that initial reaction- wow! I won’t be without it. This was the second part of the 1-2 punch that put my hormones back in balance. These two things restored me to myself again. I was so shocked and so happy.And so was my poor husband! And yes, absolutely- the difference was notable to him as well- and honestly, he’s a simple man and we’ve been married for 27 years, so it takes a bit for him to sit up and take notice.

There is much, much more involved in hormone balance and many more things to consider for your own personal situation. For instance, prescription drugs, birth control…….even improper digestion can cause your estrogen imbalance, since estrogen can be reabsorbed into the body if your digestive system isn’t working properly.

I hope that my experience will encourage you to find answers for your particular situation. You don’t have to live with these symptoms and I don’t think you were meant to. Do the research and seek out the help you need to make you feel good again! I’ve linked some sights below to get you started.

Energetic Nutrition

John R. Lee, MD

Christiane Northrup, MD

I hope that this is helpful to you now or in some way in the future. I have loads of personal updates on life in general to give you. Life went a little sideways but its all coming back around- can’t wait to fill you in! Thanks for reading, commenting and sharing!

Cheers! Here’s to not throwing in the towel, just yet!




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  1. Belinda
    March 27, 2017 / 3:54 pm

    This is so on point for me right now. Was sure I was in the big M after this last year but a change of insurance, going back to my old OBGyn that has dropped the OB and consintrating on us heading towards the cliff, and some testing and I am on my way back from the edge. Love having a DO that works with the whole body. He is a partner in this part of my life as much as when he safely brought my son into this world (that was a monstrous achievement). Thanks for sharing this journey.

    • melissa
      March 27, 2017 / 4:38 pm

      Belinda that is so awesome to hear! I am glad that this post was relevant for you. And good for you for finding such a wonderful medical professional! And you are right- they SHOULD be seen as a partner in this part of our lives! Great reminder! Thanks for reading and commenting!

  2. May 28, 2017 / 9:03 am

    Thanks for this! I’m in the UK and my mum, who’s only 18 years my senior, warned me that I would find some doctors who were pro- and some most definitely anti-HRT. When I still lived in London I saw my local GP (General Practitioner) who was a woman in her thirties. She’d seen the results of my recent routine bone density test and recommended I get started on HRT since I was concerned about osteoporosis, plus I’m nearly a vegan and at that time I wan’t working out as I was waiting for surgery to fix a broken clavicle (broke it out cycling, nothing to do with bone density issues). then I moved back to Scotland and lo and behold… my new doctor, a man in his fifties who will*never* experience this, read me the riot act about HRT before giving me my prescription.

    The truth is there’s a whole lot I don’t know about oestrogen v progesterone , so I’m going to look into your recommendation. I have to admit I hate the extra weight! Three years ago I was 120 lbs and while I think that’s definitely far too light for me, I wouldn’t mind being 130lbs.

    • melissa
      May 30, 2017 / 10:56 am

      Emerald, my body has decided on a “new normal” weight as well. How are you finding the HRT? I agree completely with you smart mum- if a doc dismisses your symptoms- find a new doc.The DIM and the progesterone are really life savers for me….like night and day. I couldn’t be more pleased, and I seriously rolled my eyes at the thought that anything I could order off of AMAZON or pick up at a health food store would do me one bit of good! Turns out your body knows exactly what to do with the stuff it manufactures on its own! I was blown away. Are you still in Scotland? We were there not too long ago and had such a fabulous time! So beautiful.Took a tour of Glenlivet…….turns out I LOVE Scotch. 😀 Thanks so much for your comments!

  3. August 9, 2017 / 2:13 pm

    So, I don’t know how I missed this post but again it is really good. Hormones are a topic I am afraid to address on my blog. People have strong opinions. I take bio identical hormones and have since my body stopped making them 10 years ago. They changed my life. Of course I and my husband (a research scientist with two PhDs,, so I trust his analysis of the research) learned everything we could and I decided it was best for me. But everyone has to do what works for them. So many women suffer unnecessarily. Great post! Peace!

  4. August 25, 2017 / 10:37 am

    I am going to try this! I just turned 40, but so many things have changed. One being my period. I get so emotional now a week before I start. It’s really bad. I can’t control it. I can cry over someone looking at me wrong. I’ve always had really light, easy periods, but this is too much. Also I’ve gained about 25 pounds in the past year, with no diet change. I hope that this could help with these issues! I love your blogs and I’m so glad I found you! Thanks!!

    • melissa
      August 25, 2017 / 1:19 pm

      Thank you Shelly! These things have been a lifesaver for me. Let me know how you get on. I am always trying new things and researching to try to find as many solutions as possible to help us as we age. Not going down without a fight! LOL! Thanks so much for reading and commenting.

  5. Barbara
    January 14, 2018 / 9:20 pm

    It’s nice to hear success stories, but for some of us, it’s not the magic pill or answer.

    Unfortunately, my experience with Progesterone cream and bioidentical hormone therapy has been disappointing, and all of my symptoms worsened. On a hunch of my estrogen dominance, I used the cream first, which made me gain weight. Not good. I then decided to go to a bioidentical hormone therapy doctor, and the therapy (which included Progesterone pills and Testosterone pellet injection) actually gave me new negative symptoms…and worsened my existing symptoms!

    To add insult to injury, the doctor who administered the bioidentical hormone therapy’s rates were astronomical…so, I basically paid thousands of dollars to gain 15 extra pounds and feel worse than when I walked into his office. I feel so defeated and depressed that this popular therapy has not been effective for me, and since I already eat very nutritiously and lead a healthy lifestyle, I’m feeling hopeless that I will ever get any relief from this hormone fluctuation nightmare.

    • melissa
      January 15, 2018 / 10:56 am

      That would indeed be so disheartening Barbara! And I know you aren’t alone in having that kind of disappointment. While the cream and DIM are working for me NOW, I doubt that they will be enough as I get further into all of this. I recently heard of a book on menopause written by a doctor in Houston: Barbara Taylor, MD- otherwise known as “Menopause Barbie” on youtube! She makes a lot of sense in the approach she uses, basically :Heres all the stuff that MIGHT work- now pick, choose and change what works for YOU. The channel is a wealth of information and the book is called “Menopause: Your Management Your Way … Now and for the Rest of Your Life”. I plan to get the book- maybe check it out or check out her channel- just don’t give up!
      ~Melissa xx

  6. Joan
    September 6, 2018 / 1:19 pm

    So glad to find this! My Doctor has put me on progesterone pill . I havent took it yet.. so afraid too .. I am having awful time.. my OBGyn goes by symptoms she says that test for hormones change change from day to day.. so she says by my symptoms I need this .. been trying to get me to take it for 3 years! I just thought I could do it on my own.. but I am learning that I can’t .. I don’t know why I am so afraid to take a pill! I keep looking things up on google.. which I know is a bad idea 😬 and everybody reacts didn’t to this.. need to check out the other supplement You was taking about . One question is the cream better than the pill? She told me the pill would help me sleep . Which I can’t sleep good .. menopause is rough!

  7. This Main Line Life
    June 2, 2019 / 8:28 pm

    Wow, that little blurb in the beginning about your pre-hormonal balanced self, totally could have been written about me. This is so interesting. How did you know what to do once you got your test results? Did you have to work with your Doctor to figure out how to rebalance your system? How did you find a Dr that knew about hormonal balance. I’d really like to look into this myself. Would love it if you’d email me all the details: thismainlinelife@gmail.com

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