Valentines Day: The Married Edition

My husband and I are going on 29 married years together this year. I see loads and loads of Valentines Day posts, but I wanted to do something a little different. How about Valentines Day for the long time married couples among us? Valentines Day: The Married Edition!

Valentines Day: Married Edition

My little sister has always called Valentines Day “Forced Romance Day”. Which is admittedly hysterical, and if you’ve been married a long time, it’s easy to just let it go on by without so much as a glance. But I like Valentines Day. Maybe it’s because my mom always made a big deal of it when we were kids. She always had something special for us in the way of a lovely, (sometimes handmade) card and a bit of special candy. I like the thought of being intentional, and taking a sec to give a nod to the love that my husband and I have for each other.

Now- we are much too old and wise to go OUT on Valentines Day. No way. Even our most favorite restaurants will be jam packed with new couples trying desperately to “check off” the “look how much I love you” box. No thanks.

Instead, we’ve developed our own little Valentines Day tradition that we really enjoy, so I thought I’d share it with you. I like to dress for the occasion (because…..’s still an excuse to dress up!), he brings flowers, I serve up one of my husbands all time favorite dishes, we drink wine, eat by candlelight and exchange cards. (My husband loves cards. I’ve never been much for them so it took me forever to realize that they are actually really special to him! Wife Fail, lol.) And sometimes we have a small gift for one another. Thats it. It is so relaxing and laid back,…no pressure- but still an intentional nod to say- “Hey. You’re still the one- my favorite human- I love you…. Still.

This year, I picked up a cute little crimson, velvet wrap top to wear. I hadn’t planned on getting anything new, but it was marked way down at Express and who isn’t going to look good in a wrap top?? So I snagged it. Their sales are so easy to shop- you can select your size and color (red, of course) and quickly see what’s available. Their huge End of Season Sale is a major one for picking up basics or things like a Valentines Day top!

I’ll be sending my husband the tip (No, like literally- I’ll text it to him) to buy flowers from Bouqs this year because right now, Ebates is offering 24% back on their flowers and I ADORE the bouquets from Bouqs. They are so pretty and fresh, and not the boring bouquets that are so typical here in the US for delivery. I highly recommend them- If you use this link you can also take off another 25% so the savings are considerable on beautiful, farm fresh flowers. Maybe you could just go ahead and send yourself some!

Valentines Day: The Married Edition

These are some of my favorite things this Valentines Day. Again- nothing big, but a nice excuse to be intentional with an “I love you”. This year I’m going with the big box of Charbonnel et Walker Marc de Champagne Chocolates! They are amazing.

And lastly, here is the recipe that I’ll be making this year. This recipe originated from “The Back Porch Restaurant on Ocracoke Island, North Carolina.I’ve been making it for almost as long as we’ve been married! It is the poshest and most decadent recipe for a piece of chicken that there ever was!

Bourbon Pecan Chicken

  • 1/4 cup Dijon mustard
  • 1/4 cup brown sugar
  • 2+2/3 tablespoons bourbon whiskey
  • 2 tablespoons soy sauce
  • 1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce
  • 1/2 cup flour
  • 1/2 cup chopped pecans
  • 1/2 cup panko breadcrumbs
  • 2 large egg yolks
  • 1/2 cup milk
  • 4 trimmed chicken breasts
  • 1/4 cup melted butter
  • 6 ounces chilled butter cut into 12 pieces

  • 1. Whisk together mustard, bourbon, sugar, soy sauce and Worcestershire sauce in sauce pan. 2. Heat mixture and add butter one piece at a time until each piece is incorporated, whisking entire time. 3. Mix together pecans and breadcrumbs. 4. Whisk together egg yolks and milk. 5. Dredge chicken in four, shake off excess. 6. Dip floured chicken into egg mixture. 7. Push chicken into pecan/breadcrumb mixture to coat. 8. Sautee chicken in melted butter on medium heat until chicken is done. 9. Serve chicken on bed of rice, top with 1/4 cup of bourbon sauce. I like to pair with steamed asparagus and honey glazed baby carrots.

It is soooooo good!

Do you do anything for Valentines Day? I’d love to hear about it in the comments!

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Valentines Day: The Married Edition

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Melissa is an unrepentant shoe hoarder who is obsessed with travel, wine, good food and her family. (Not necessarily in that order!)

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  1. This Main Line Life
    January 29, 2019 / 2:57 pm

    Awe, that’s so very sweet. I totally agree about going out..No, no no.. but it’s so nice that you still do a special dinner.

    • melissa
      January 30, 2019 / 12:39 pm

      Right??? I can remember when we were young and we’d go out to eat on Valentines Day and honestly it was usually such a let down, lol. I like having our special, relaxing time at home! Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment!
      ~Melissa xx

  2. January 29, 2019 / 4:56 pm

    What a lovely and happy post! Loved it! My hubs and I going on 40 this year (yikes) but it’s wonderful to have been with one person that long πŸ™‚ Your blog is fun! Enjoy your humor, too 😁!

    • melissa
      January 30, 2019 / 12:33 pm

      Thank you so much Holly! That means so much. Congratulations to you and your husband! And I agree- It’s such a special thing to have that kind of commitment and love for each other! Thanks so much for reading and commenting.
      ~Melissa xx

  3. January 30, 2019 / 12:32 am

    We never do anything about Valentine, but the way you celebrate it sounds pretty good. Perhaps we will start our own tradition this year!

    • melissa
      January 30, 2019 / 12:27 pm

      Aw, thank you, Nancy! Glad it gave you some ideas!
      ~Melissa xx

  4. February 2, 2019 / 12:50 pm

    I love Valentines Day although I often end up spending it with my daughter (as both our husbands travel a lot). I used to buy my kiddies a little something each Valentines – until they got embarrassed by me haha. Have a fab time with your lovely fella Melissa xx Maria

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